These 3 Simple Tips Can Transform Your Sexual Experience
Sumit Munjal
@sumitmunjal
Let me start with a disclaimer that my knowledge of sex and sexual wellness arises from personal sexual experiences, practice, reading, and professional advice I have received. I ain’t no doctor and no medical expert, but these sexual beliefs and values dictate my philosophy regarding sex. I am a queer human of Indian descent, my sexual knowledge is a mixture of both eastern and western wisdom. I have three simple tips that I’ve gathered to help you have pleasurable and memorable sex.
Breathing is important! No kidding!
The first tip (no pun intended) comes from a life-changing experience I had when I visited Rishikesh, India for a yoga retreat. The biggest takeaway was the importance of breathing and how many of us get it wrong. Every single deep breath relaxes your muscles during (yoga or) sex, enticing more pleasure and sensory stimulation. Think of how long you’d live if you didn’t eat. Now think how long you’d live if you didn’t have anything to drink, and now consider if you stopped breathing right now. Between the grunts and groans, many of us take breathing for granted. The ujjayi (victorious breath) technique, learned during my retreat, is a brilliant way to learn how to breathe. The legendary strategy handbook for sex, Kamasutra, suggests developing a holistic body experience that develops your sexual prowess while stressing on breathing. Even though Kamasutra has a significant focus on the so-called “positions” it stresses that breathing is at the core of achieving those positions as your muscles flex.
Energy what?
My next tip is, believe in the power of airflow. This might sound mundane, but building the right atmosphere for your day-to-day living is essential for your mood and sensual energy. According to Kamasutra, air and physical surroundings act as a factor that contributes to powerful sex. This tip works for even your usual living conditions but works VERY well if you and your partner are about to have some colourful time together. A well-ventilated room, appropriate sunlight during the daytime, and a bit of music, candles or anything that boosts the energy levels of your setting, adds and contributes to the right setting.
Yeah, I know foreplay! But do you?
There is foreplay to the foreplay. Once you’ve established the physical setting, you need a mind stimulator that shows a sexual likeness. A text, a touch or a thoughtful act is a failsafe strategy. If you know that sex is at the end of the tunnel, you have the power to control the tone for the whole encounter before you even dig into the actual foreplay. It is natural to build sexual tension with gestures such as complimenting, a hug, a slight touch anywhere ;), a bit of celebratory champagne, a naughty text, a smile, and the list goes on. The idea is to symbolize your likeness in a gesture that sets the stage for ‘the foreplay’.
So next time you are preparing for the act, even if you practice any ONE of these tips above, you’d notice the difference. Other than that just take a deep breath and breathe.